A shocked mum has reached out for help after discovering her daughter had Googled ‘naked people’, ‘naked people kissing’ and ‘real life naked people.’
She wrote on the Stay at Home Mum (SAHM) parenting forum, “Omg so just jumped on my laptop and noticed in the history that my seven-year-old (eight next month) innocent little daughter spent some time Google searching ‘naked people’, ‘naked people kissing’ and ‘real life naked people’. I am mortified and had NO idea she would do anything like this.
“I was under the impression she was on Reading Eggs and trusted her so didn’t monitor her use.
“What do I do?
“I’m not game to tell her dad he will be so mad and she will get in big trouble. I feel like such a failure as a mum that she has done this. I just asked her what she’s been Googling and she immediately started crying and said nothing I swear mum nothing (she’s also a compulsive liar!) any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.”
Majority of parents in the forum assured the mum that her daughter’s curiosity was ‘normal’, advising her not to overreact.
“Why are you reacting this way,” wrote one mum. “And why would your husband be angry? This is curiosity. She lied because she didn’t want to get in trouble. But at the end of the day, she is curious. Get some educational tools, reinforce that everyone is different and talk to her openly. It’s not like she was looking up hard core porn. She is wondering what people look like under their clothes.”
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“Why do you feel like you failed,” said another mum. “It sounds like normal curiosity to me. She obviously has some questions so talk to her about it, reassure her she can come to you with anything at all and you will be upfront and honest with her. Also reinforce to her how dangerous the internet is. That it is full of misinformation etc etc.”
“I used to sneak my mums medical journals and check out all the naked people at this age lol,” reassured another. “I guess this is [the] modern day equivalent. I can promise you it was curiosity. I was not sexually abused nor did I grow up to be a sexual deviant. I’m quite boring and vanilla actually I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. Simply tell her the computer lets you know when she looks at things she’s not allowed to. Maybe even actually buy her an anatomy book and in future monitor her on the computer.”
Others urged the mum to take action now, to prevent her daughter being exposed to inappropriate images and pornography.
“She’s definitely a bit young to be looking these sorts of things up, but kids grow up much faster these days than we did,” suggested one mum. “And accessing information on the internet is done by so many kids they are bound to talk about when they are on their own at school, teachers out of earshot. So it may still be simply curiosity.
“I don’t know how comfortable most kids would be about discussing male /female kissing techniques with their parent anyway. Seeing moving images is a lot more illustrative than hearing about it. Be gentle with her, and open up the conversation.”
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